How often do we get into arguments with people we care about and never change ?
How often do we hide who we really are because others cannot handle the truth. ?
How many times do we say negative things that are on our minds that are not factual ?
Growing up as a shy only child who never wanted to be center of attention, unless it was for being praised about my performance. I often observed people and situations. I never spoke much but always listened and analysed body language. By doing that I was able to find friends that where compatible with me. Another contributing factor as to why I’m good at reading situations, people and giving great advice was down to the relationship that I had with my father. We had a great bond because we were open and honest with each other. Through his actions he taught me how to be supportive, how to have fun, how to have a conversation.
When people ask for my advice I have to make sure they actually want my advice. Because sometimes they just want to vent or they already know the answer but just need a confirmation or listening ear. When my advice is needed I tend to look out for the small things like their body language, repetition in what they say (indicates whether they are trying to convince their self or question their self), their tone of voice and If I can’t fully identify through my experiences of their problem. I pull from my memory bank and look at other people’s situation in similar circumstance then give advice. (In my spare time I read articles and watch videos about relationships between people).
I love that people trust in me and feel confident and comfortable enough to be vulnerable to open their self up to me. However I would not be a good person If I didn’t seek self-improvement. In my opinion having a stagnant mindset whilst giving advice to me could lead to toxic advice.
The benefits of self improvement.
- Deeper connection to yourself worth and who you are
- Promotes self-esteem
- Help you become the best version of yourself
- Inspire others to do the same
- More fulfilling relationships
- & many more.
Self Improvement Time
You should want to improve yourself to benefit you and not others. Once you start improving on yourself and seeing results, the right people will be attracted to you.
Dont go crazy trying to change yourself completely.
There is a difference between changing who you are and improving on yourself. You must be honest with where you’re at in life and be honest with the decisions that you’ve made this far. If you are not honest with yourself how can you heal and improve.
I want my mind, body and soul to be improved. Self improvement comes in many forms, from physical achievements to mental achivements. This month I’ve decided that I want to self improve by reading a few chapters from two books: “You can heal your heart” and “Anne Frank”.
You Can Heal Your Heart will show you that there is life after loss by:
- Helping you develop greater self-awareness and compassion
- Developing an inner source of resilience to face many other types of losses and challenges
- Teaching you how to say goodbye to a beloved pet, find peace after losing your job, come to terms with a life threatening illness or disease, and much more.
Anne Frank is just an inspiring humbling story that I want to read again. 🙂
What’s your goal ?
I would really like to know what you are doing to self improve. From taking the first steps to signing up to the gym, looking for a new job, or reading a few self-help books. Comment below and let me know.